You’re NOT Actually that busy!


Like seriously, for real, for real.  Some people tend to think you have nothing else to do besides cater to them.  Let me begin by running down the majority of my days for you.  My days began everyday Monday – Friday, at 5:30 a.m.  I wake up, use the bathroom, wash my hands, feed the fish (Midget, Joan and Melissa), then proceed to wake my two boys up for school.  Now they aren’t woke up at the same time, although we do have two bathrooms.  One of them always wake up earlier than the other one to get in the bathroom and get themselves together if they didn’t bathe the night before, and they actually expect me to remember who I woke up first the day prior, even after the weekend has passed.  I’m going to need them to get that together and work it out, lol.

I only wished I had either that many hands or 5 clones of me.

I only wished I had either that many hands or 5 clones of me.

Oh well, and if I was too tired to iron clothes for them the night prior, then I guess I will be ironing in the morning on any given day.  Next it’s making sure they eat, and have packed all of their homework in their bags from the night before.  Then I ascertain that their faces, and ears have been cleaned, teeth have been brush and hair greased and brushed.   Thank God for my Mom, that I don’t have to drive all the way in the city every morning to take them to school.  She’s a jewel, because she does that for me.  Then I began to clean and do my motherly duties, washing clothes, making sure the house is clean and their rooms are clean.  Then I began working on adding and critiquing a chapter in my book, that will in the publishing works by 2014.  Hopefully I’m not disturbed by a phone call or text, because if I’m in my element this will definitely throw me for a loop.  Thank God, I am lacking in the writer’s block category.

Once I’m satisfied with my book writing progress, I began to check my Mary Kay stock and make sure I have certain products stocked and ready for sale, according to my current and future clients needs.  I either purchase more products and update my inventory spreadsheet, or I check to see if there are any orders that need to be delivered or shipped.  Then I update my facebook page www.facebook.com/fyrstladymarykay with sales or trivia questions that I may have for the week/month.

Then I think about all the errands I have to run, groceries to purchase, bills to schedule for payment, finish classwork that needs to be completed (oh, did I mention I’m back in school to attain my degree in Early Childhood Education, I just love kids of all ages), plan events/outings for the BYF (Baptist Youth Fellowship) for whatever month it currently is, find a date that works, to carve out time for my Mentee (I just love me some her), and then leave out in time to volunteer at my kids school from 3 – 6 p.m, Monday, Wednesday and Friday.

I’m not even done, Tuesday and Thursday start very much the same, but these days are devoted to sketching designs for my budding clothing line, this is something I’ve always wanted to do.  Work at booking new clients for events/wedding, or continuity in planning the ones that are already in progress, so that I can keep the money coming in. I do have bills, and tuition for both me and my children to pay.  I also have class to attend.  At the end of the day my bed is holding me and my television is watching me.

The nerve of folks to ask anything else of me, is just plan selfish, when I’ve already done over and beyond what they’ve asked.  For instance create a sign-in sheet for your business and email it again, after I’ve already printed about 20 sheets to get you started and email you a copy of it about 10 times already, and someone to ask for me to create a cover letter after I’ve already created a resume for you, then another person to want me to keep applying via internet for different jobs for them and sending off your resume, when I’ve already created the resume and cover letter…what they hell am I, your personal secretary?  I need Diddy PA (Personal Assistant) money for that.  I’m gonna need folks to get it together, “ain’t nobody got time for that.”  Hell I’m already busy!!

The Success of Black Owned Businesses


I have been pondering writing about this topic for quite some time now.  As I like to consider myself a restaurant connoisseur, which I think comes into play because of my huge passion for food.  I frequent a lot of restaurants in search of great eating, a wonderful atmosphere and a new place to add to my list of frequent faves, among other things.  Well I often wonder when I go into an establishment what was the owners driving force behind opening this particular business, as well as, their ideas and creative drive for longevity.

I really enjoy the restaurant atmosphere when I find out that the establishment is black-owned.  Not because I am a black woman, but because I like to see black business owners succeeding and pushing past the stereotypes such as, going out of business in less than 5 years, or horrible customer service, or lackluster food preparation, and the list goes on.  Well this post came about after visiting Geo Soul in Olympia Fields, now this wasn’t my first time dining in at the restaurant.  It was about my third time in a 8  month span…heyy I had to frequent a lot of other restaurants where I craved a particular item on their menu.  So back to Geo Soul, my first visit to this restaurant was in January of 2011, I absolutely loved it.  The food portions were wonderful, the atmosphere was simply beautiful, the location was 5 minutes from home, and the food, THE FOOD was absolutely delicious!!  It wasn’t until my then 9 and 7-year-old asked to compliment the owner on the quality of food, and the decor of the restaurant that we found out the owner was a young, black, female.  I immediately prayed for her success, and that she doesn’t become remiss to the susceptibility of falling prey to the demise of black businesses.

I am a Huge Supporter

 

 

Fast forward two months later, a beautiful little hidden nook in South Suburbia Olympia Fields, that’s close to home, I had to come back.  Once I arrived at this new gem, that would be on my frequent fave list, I began to digress.  The service was sub par, the food was inadequate and this second experience almost jilted me from ever coming back.  Nonetheless, I decided to give it another chance.  Heyyy, every restaurant deserves to have an off day, but since I’m a rating and review type girl, I decided to see what other people had to say.   Lo and behold they experienced some of the same issues that I had on my second visit and before I completely wrote the place off, I had to give it just one more chance.  Needless to say, my last and final visit was the worse ever.

In honor of my late birthday celebration, I decided to come here, since I was celebrating in mid-week and didn’t want to travel all the way downtown.  When my date and I arrived at the restaurant, there is no one on the restaurant side, but there were about 8 people on the bar side.  So I’m thinking, yes…this is perfect, personal attention.  Boy was I wrong, it took about five minutes to be able to place an order and for them to bring bread (I absolutely love, fresh bread and butter, prior to my meal).  Then I hear the sound of a microwave opening, closing, clicking, beeping, then opening and closing again.  No I did not, NOT IN A RESTAURANT!!  A few seconds later, here comes my bread.  Did you just give me someone’s left over bread??, and you had the nerve to let me hear you heating it up.

My Are You Serious Face, when the waiter brought out my reheated bread and when I found out the Cook was also the Bartender.

Then the 1 of 8 people whom I saw at the bar when I walked in was the damn cook.  Are you serious??  This fool is not serving the bar, and about to cook my food after me waiting 15 minutes with reusable bread and my salad (you can’t do anything wrong with a salad, besides served wilted lettuce, but unfortunately my salad worked for me during the wait).  It took about another hour before we got our food (to be exact an hour and 30 minutes later).

…TO BE CONTINUED…..

Have you ever fell in love with a restaurant to come back to it and everything that you loved about it had dissipated?

Garfield Monday


Coming off a weekend, full of high, high, highs, where all the stops have been pulled out.  Loving the feel of my bed, and not wanting to get out of it, has really did me in on today.  So of course, in awe of how my bed hugs my body, I chose to succumb to that feeling.  I didn’t get out of it.  Now isn’t that just a wonderful feeling.

 Well I would have been an awesome feeling, if I didn’t have so much to do.  Considering my weekend was full of running around from meeting to meeting, to engagements, to networking, to “ME Time”, and then finally getting in early in the A.M. to get just enough sleep to refresh me for Sunday morning.  Yes church, I had to go and give God his time, because he blesses me continually.  Without him I would be nothing, so he get’s his time, whether I’m working on six hours or an hour of sleep.  No!!!, I did not and would not fall asleep in the house of God, I was wide awake, but afterwards is another story.

My Church Home

 

The reason for this being Garfield Monday, because everything that I should have done this weekend, gets done today.  Oh let me not leave out, how I need a new battery for my car, which is another reason for me being stuck in the house today.  It’s time for me to get another one, why can’t I abandon my long time baby.  I guess for the fact, I don’t like car notes, and I wanted my next big purchase to be the house of my dreams, then the car.  Oh well, let me finish sulking and working, because until I get a quick perk me up, it’s still GARFIELD MONDAY!!

This is exactly how I'm feeling

The Funk I’m In


Okay, I haven’t been feeling well lately.  I have suddenly been overwhelmed by the many events and wedding consultations I have been doing lately, spending quality time with my boys, mentoring, church duties, boyscout leader duties, “ME Time”, squeezing in time for the love life that I think I should have right about now and soooo much more.

Don’t get me wrong, I love the path that my company is going in.  I absolutely adore the time that I spend with my boys, I love being a mentor, I love my church, I love my boyscout duties, don’t have enough Me Time and my love life right now is absolutely none existent.

As I left off the last time, I was in between dating this guy, who was shorter than I.  Oh well, that’s not going to work at all, because I absolutely refuse to put up with bull, especially now since my life encompasses so many other wonderful things.  Actually right now, I’m enjoying flirting and working on the new me, “She is such a Diva,” lol.  Hey if I don’t love on me, who will.  I’m loving my life and I know great things are ahead.

This is the year to take charge of the ME I want to be, and work on my Bucket List.  Oh, did I mention that I was working on my bucket list.  Yep, that’s right, I plan on doing it all in the next year or two.  I’m soooo loving this new me.

Look out ya’ll, the world ain’t ready for me yet!!!!